本研究旨在探討成年的未婚女性在親密關係發展歷程中，如何經營與持續感情，藉由探索未婚女性與其伴侶在親密關係中的相處模式，以瞭解維繫情感的動力來源；以及當面對一段親密關係的失落時，所造成的心理影響為何?又該如何因應及調適? 研究方法以半結構式的深度訪談來蒐集資料，並以敘事研究之「類別-內容」分析模式進行內容的分析。依據研究目的，本研究選取兩位符合以下條件之成年未婚女性為研究參與者：年齡在25歲至30歲之間、目前或曾經擁有一段以上穩定的兩性親密關係。 研究結果顯示研究參與者在親密關係追尋當中，不斷出現「愛人與被愛」、「權力競爭」，以及「性別差異」等議題，茲將研究結果歸納如下：一、親密關係背後的情感動力，在於相互需求。二、維繫親密關係的因素，在於雙方的責任感與包容心。三、有效的溝通才能解決親密關係中的衝突。四、勇敢面對分手並經歷傷痛，才能重新展開新生活。最後，研究者衷心期望那些曾經在感情路上受過傷害的人，能夠透過閱讀本論文，藉此得到心靈的慰藉。 The purpose of this study is to discuss the development process of intimate relationship for unmarried female adults and how they carry on and maintain their affections. To understand the motivation of maintaining their relationship, we can explore the interactive modes with their mates. Moreover, what is their mental affection when losing an intimate relationship and at the same time, how do they cope and adjust themselves from the losing experience? This research is conducted with in-depth interviews to collect data and the “categorical-content”approach of narrative study is adopted to analyze the interview content. Two unmarried female participants who were between 25 to 30 years old and have/had constant heterosexual intimate relationships were selected for this research. This research shows that the issues of“love and be loved”,“power game”, and “gender differences” are constantly appeared in the intimate relationships. The research results are concluded as follows： 1. The motivation behind the intimate relationship lies in mutual needs.2. The responsibility and toleration are two main factors in keeping the intimate relationship.3. Only effective communication can solve the clash in the intimate relationship.4. One can carry on new life when they can really face the losing experience without fears.
