一位中年男性的多重失落經驗的敘事研究

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Title:	一位中年男性的多重失落經驗的敘事研究
Other Titles:	A Narrative Study of the Lived Experience of a Middle-Aged Man with Multiple Loses
Authors:	葉慧儀 YIP, HOI-YEE
Contributors:	生死學系碩博士班蔡昌雄 TSAI, CHANG-HSIUNG
Keywords:	中年男性;多重失落;失落 middle-aged men;multiple losses;loss
Date:	2023
Issue Date:	2023-11-13 13:24:35 (UTC+8)
Abstract:	本研究旨在探討中年男性多重失落經驗者的具體失落課題以及如何回應的生命歷程。本研究以敘事研究之「整體－內容」分析，瞭解研究參與者之生命處境、具體失落課題以及回應失落課題的生命歷程。研究結果發現研究受訪者在生命中承受不斷挑戰生命底線的失落衝擊，包括了早期原生家庭的家道中落；落榜於心儀的學校、生意失敗、喪父、發現妻子外遇。一次一次的失落經驗，像是航海時遇到了風浪，一浪高過一浪的撲向受訪者，讓他不知所措也不知這風浪何時停止。即使生命底線有如此多的衝擊，家人是最強後盾也是致命軟肋。本研究受訪者在原生家庭一直是備受重視的孩子，成長過程中所經歷的挫折，都是家人尤其是父親肯定他的能力並且給予許多的關懷、支持和力量，讓他能夠突破困境。這些肯定、關懷、支持和力量，被受訪者內化成為自己的內在力量，肯定自己是有能力且願意接受挑戰的。受訪者的妻子是另一個當他遇到挫折困境時，能給予他支持鼓勵，讓他重新振作的人。無論是原生家庭或是自己組織的家庭，都是受訪者的後盾。但是世間一切皆是雙面的，能夠給予支持的家人，也是致命的軟肋。當父親往生接著妻子外遇，讓受訪者的後盾出現了缺角，扛不住一波接一波的風浪，讓他崩潰也讓他的世界崩塌。最後修補他世界和後盾的也是與妻子和解後，妻子的支持。最後本研究受訪者在經歷多重失落後自殺沒有完成，讓他活下去的力量，除了是來自妻子承諾回歸家庭以及對他的肯定也是因為還有未完成的「任務」：養家糊口以及把父親的債務還清。在這樣的期待下，受訪者就選擇把悲傷留給自己一個人面對，其他時間都放在工作和家庭上。另一個讓受訪者活著的力量來自於重要他人的囑咐：太太的遺願，繼續經營推廣某個新時代心靈團體的公司以繼續讓更多有需要的人受惠。　　The aim of this study is to explore the specific issues of multiple losses experienced by middle-aged men and their life processes of responding to those losses. This study adopts a “holistic-content” analysis approach to narrative research, in order to understand the life circumstances, specific loss issues, and life processes of the participants in responding to those losses. The results of the study reveal that the interviewees have endured continuous challenges that push the boundaries of their lives, including the decline of their family's fortunes in their early childhood, being rejected by their desired schools, business failures, the loss of their father, and the discovery of their wife's infidelity. Each experience of loss is like encountering storms at sea, with wave after wave crashing upon the interviewees, leaving them bewildered and uncertain about when the storm will subside. Despite the multitude of impacts on their life's foundation, family members serve as both the strongest support and the most vulnerable weak point. The interviewees were always highly valued children in their original families, and the setbacks they experienced during their growth process were affirmed by their family, especially their fathers, who recognized their abilities and provided them with care, support, and strength, enabling them to overcome difficulties. These affirmations, care, support, and strength were internalized by the interviewees as their own inner power, affirming that they have the ability and willingness to face challenges. The interviewees' wives are another source of support and encouragement, helping them regain their composure when facing setbacks and difficulties. Whether it is their original family or the family they have formed, they serve as the interviewees' backing. However, everything in the world has two sides, and the family members who provide support are also their fatal weak point. When the interviewees' father passed away and their wife had an affair, their support system developed a flaw, making it difficult for them to withstand the continuous waves of challenges, leading to their collapse and the collapse of their world. Ultimately, it was through reconciling with his wife and receiving her support that the interviewees were able to repair their world and their support system. Finally, after experiencing multiple losses, the interviewees did not complete suicide. The strength that kept them alive came not only from their wife's promise to return to the family and her affirmation of them but also from the unfinished “tasks“: providing for the family and paying off their father's debts. With such expectations, the interviewees chose to face their sadness alone and dedicated the rest of their time to work and family. Another source of strength that kept the interviewees alive came from the instructions of significant others: their wife's last wish for them to continue managing and promoting a certain new age spiritual group, in order to benefit more people in need.
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