本研究是採用質性研究取向的生命故事敘說研究，試圖透過六位婚外情當事人對自身經驗的主體敘說，分析出親密關係受到婚外情事件的衝擊與影響，並探究其發展歷程以及因應策略，以六位婚外情當事人的生命故事作為分析內容，於本章節中呈現研究後的結果，主要內容共分為以下四點：壹、 當事人在歷經婚外情事件前、後，對於親密關係的認知觀點、個人主體經驗的轉變：1.因為性別與角色、立場的不同，將直接影響親密關係的認知觀點與態度；2.女性主體意識有逐漸抬頭，開始會重視自我權益與情慾需求3. 重新思維與調整對於浪漫愛的認知與依附性。貳、 影響親密關係的運作方式與因素有三點：1受到浪漫愛而影響親密關係的建構與運作模式；2. 因愛情、婚姻、家庭關係被緊密綑綁一起以及通姦罪法的影響，形成對親密關係壓迫與約制；3. 維護「理想家庭的完整性」為影響親密關係決定是否存續的重要考量。 參、當事人面對婚外情衝擊時，其因應策略為：1. 親密關係真正的問題主要是受理想家庭意識型態的影響2. 以「反思」與「協商」來重整或重組親密關係。肆、婚外情形成社會價值對於婚姻觀與親密關係的影響：1.造成社會觀感的鬆動與轉變趨勢，不再認為婚外情對於婚姻是絕對的破壞，通姦罪的存在無法保障婚姻關係。2.社會中呈現新的道德觀與價值的徵象，即是越來越重視個人主體與需求，並逐漸接納多元性的組合，而非傳統認知「永恆與唯一對象」的婚姻關係。 Using a qualitative oriented research of life story narrations, this study aims to analyze the impact and the influence of the extramarital affairs on their intimate relationship through the narration of personal experiences of six protagonists who have undergone through extramarital affairs as well as to explore the development process and coping strategies. Using the life stories of these six protagonists as the analytical content, the results will be presented at the end of the chapter, while the main content are the following four sections:A. The changes of the cognitive perspective and personal experience before and after experiencing the extramarital affairs of the protagonists: 1. The differences of gender and role and position will directly influence the cognitive perspective and attitude of the intimate relationship; 2. The rise of female consciousness, self-interests and lust demand are being paid more attention; 3. The cognition and dependence of romantic love have been re-thought and re-adjusted.B. There are three elements that affect the operation of the intimate relationship: 1. The construction and operation modes of the intimate relationships affected by romantic love; 2. The formation of oppression and restraint from the influence of close tie-up and adultery law upon love, marriage and family relationship; 3. The insistence of “the integrity of an ideal family” would be the fundamental consideration that determines the continuing of the intimate relationship.C. In the face of the extramarital affair impact, the coping strategies are: 1. The real problem of the intimate relationship is mainly the influence of the ideal family consciousness; 2. “Reflection” and “negotiation” can re-construct or re-build the intimate relationship.D. The influence of social values towards the concepts of marriage and intimate relationship from extramarital relationship: 1. Owing to the loosening and changing trends of social perception, extramarital relationship is not considered as the absolute destruction of a marriage. The existence of adultery law does not guarantee the marital relationship; 2. New signs of morality and values are presented in the society, meaning that individuality and demands are given more attention, while other diverse combinations are also being accepted rather than the traditional view of “ the eternal and the only one” in a marital relationship.
